You & All Your Parts

Are there Common Parts “Everybody” has?

A question Laura gets is "are their common Parts people have?" Laura shares a list of Parts Jay Earley has identified and gives her own take on those Parts. The truth: yes, there are common Parts people tend to have, but how they show up is unique to you and your lived experience.

We’re Born With Our Parts

Have you ever wondered where your Parts come from? Laura shares that IFS believes we're all born with our Parts and then talks through how some of them get burdened.

Working Real Time with Your Parts

Being able to work with your Parts as things are happening in your life is where the rubber meets the road in Parts Work. Laura shares with you two examples, one hers, one Liz Gilbert's of working with your Parts in real-time when they become activated. Listen in!

When You Can’t Make All Your Parts Happy

We can't always do everything our Parts want us to do. This is particularly true when you have two Parts that want diametrically opposed things. Listen in as Laura walks through how she uses her Triple A's of Acknowledge, Accept, and Appreciate to help her listen to her Parts with compassion and then make a choice that is best for her overall system.

You Don’t Have to Act on Every Thought You Have

It wasn't that long ago that Laura learned this truth: you don't have to act on EVERY thought you have. Laura shares this truth but also talks about being hijacked by a Part, because that is a thing that happens. Listen in to learn more.

Inquiring Minds Want to Know: ”How many Parts do I have??”

A common question Laura gets is "How many Parts do I have?" Listen in for Laura's spin and how even though she has identified over 150 of her own Parts, she doesn't see them every day.

Love Languages of your Parts

Laura revisit's Gary Chapman's 1992 best-selling book, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. She shares that it didn't really resonate with her back then. But now she understands its because her Parts have differing wants and desires and that includes different Love Languages.

Creating a Safe Haven for Your Parts - a Guided Meditation

Laura shares a guided meditation based on Joanne Twombley's work to help you create a safe haven for your Parts.

Potato, Potahto - Getting Schooled on the Word “Blending”

After people clapped back at Laura's use of the word 'blending' with a Part, she looked up the IFS definition in her Training Manual. She discusses how after several conversations with people on the topic, they can agree to disagree about what 'blending' means and if it's "good" or "bad."

Embrace the Blend

Listen in as Laura discusses the magic of blending with your Parts and embracing their energy. Some folks mistakenly think that the whole point of Internal Family Systems (IFS) is to detach from your Parts and live solely in Self-Energy. But that isn’t true. Our Parts, in their unburdened form, have gifts to share with us. Blend with those gifts and enjoy more of your life.